Acceptance – The Missing Key in Personal Growth and Creating Your Dream Life
So many personal and spiritual growth programmes today encourage you to work hard, push harder, try to attract or create bigger and better and more expensive things into your life.
That is all very well if you have got that process to work for you.
If, however, you are like many people (me included) and - try as you might - that multi-million dollar income, the fast car, second home in the sun and luxury holiday has somehow eluded you, then you will probably be pleased to know that there is a missing piece to all of this.
For me, attempts to create my dreamlife have ended in frustration and a whole heap of debt, which culminated in me almost losing my home in January this year.
I have ended up feeling that there must be something wrong with me, as other people are able to create a better life for themselves, or at least on the surface it seems like they can. I have felt very inadequate and very guilty that I can't get what should be very simple principles to work for me.
Out of a place of sheer desperation and quite by accident, I discovered the Missing Key.
Mortgage Misery
In January 2010, we (my husband and I and family) were on the point of losing our home. Despite having made payments to the Mortgage Company over the previous six months, there were still considerable arrears because of other circumstances and the company had decided to take the house.
We fought this tooth and nail, with letters flying backwards and forwards to the solicitors, lawyers, the court and the mortgage company. We had got ourselves very stressed and very worried because we really did not want to move and we were concerned about the children and their friends and yes, we were very concerned about what other people would think and say about us. The thought of having to tell the children and, much worse than that, of having to tell parents and ask for help, was unspeakable horrible.
Despite all our efforts, the mortgage company was determined to go to court and refused to cancel the action. On the day before the court hearing, we finally voiced the unthinkable, “What if we lose tomorrow?”
We could no longer fight it. We had to accept that we might just lose and we might be moving house. I had received lots of reassuring readings from friends, that we would not be moving, yet, despite that, there was still the possibility that things would go against us and we would have to move.
Somehow in that moment, there was an acceptance of “What Is” of the reality of what we faced. Somehow a sense of peace settled over us and as that question hung in the air, there was a knowing that we would be taken care of, no matter what happened.
OK, we might have to move out of this house. We have friends who rent out property and there is always someone who knows someone who has an empty property. In that place of peace, some positive aspects occurred to us, such as not having to spend a lot of money on renovating this current property and a freedom from this unbearable worry and sleepless nights.
We have close family on both sides and we knew there would be help available, if we asked for it, along with a reprimand for not asking for help sooner.
Once we came to that place of being able to accept what we perceived to be the very worst in that situation, we were finally able to let go of the need to control the outcome.
When Greg (my husband) went to court the following day, he calmly stated our case, whilst being prepared to accept whatever outcome was given by the Judge. It was very borderline, however, what swung it in our favour, was that the other side had made mistakes in their presentation and tried to make things look worse than they really were.
This was a case of unconscious Acceptance. We were not really aware that the process had a name.
We have since looked at every major challenge we have ever faced, from losing a business, to me having an ovarian tumour removed, to battles with banks and issues of debt to attracting money when we had nothing to pay bills or to buy food.
The Missing Key
In my view, the process of Acceptance of a situation is a key component that is missing in personal growth and Law of Attraction type programmes. Accepting a situation or a person exactly as it is now is really the first step in being able to change something. This requires totally honesty and a freedom from guilt, blame or recrimination.
There may be lessons that you have learnt and things that you would differently next time. However what is here, in this moment, is what you have to deal with. And what is here and how you feel about it is perfect for this moment.
You often cannot change a situation. Only rarely can you change other people and their behaviour. However, you can change yourself, how you choose to react and the decisions and actions that you take
Acceptance is one of the most powerful, life-altering concepts that I have learnt and practised in a long time.
Every time we successfully moved through a challenge, there was ONE common factor that had allowed that to happen. Consciously or Unconsciously we had STOPPED FIGHTING, stopped resisting, stopped efforting and ACCEPTED the situation for exactly what it was.
Once that happened and we then handed it over to a Higher Power where we no longer had the frantic attachment to the outcome and the situation either resolved itself, without further input from us, or we received Guided Inspiration from a Higher Power of the Action steps we needed to take.
Once we realised what was happening unconsciously, we were able to fine tune that into a very specific step-by-step process. This meant we could move through challenges much more rapidly and make decisions from an Empowered and Inspired place.
There are very few things available today that help you to come to a place of Peace and Acceptance of your life, your problems and yourself.
You cannot put a price or a value on that wonderful feeling of calm and of freedom when you stop fighting situations in your life, when you stop efforting and stressing, when you just accept that What is here is what is here and hand it over to a Higher Power to deal with. The sense of relief when you realise that it is all being dealt with is immensurable.
If the Universe or a Higher Power needs you to take any action steps to help the process along, you know that those prompts will come to you as a strong sense of Inner Knowing and that the Wisdom and Guidance is coming from a place of Highest Love, Highest Truth and is for your Highest Good.
You can then make Inspired decisions and take Empowered Action from a place of Inner Strength and Peace.
The information in this package is priceless. It has been created from my own personal experiences of what has worked for me in very stressful situations.
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